Are you happy being alone? It is the cornerstone of the spiritual pilgrim. We are born alone. We die alone. In between is life. Along the road of life, I have noticed that the song in my head reflects the song in my heart. Right now, that song is Alone Again, Naturally by Gilbert O’Sullivan. (see YouTube video at bottom). I have spent a lifetime learning how to be happy being alone. I think I may be there, though I shudder to say it out loud.
Written in 1972, the lyrics are perhaps among the saddest ever written. Though not autobiographical, it was the song in O’Sullivan’s Irish heart whose words and melody made it the fifth most popular song of the decade of the 1970s, according to Wikipedia.
Jesus said, “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” (Mt 5:4) The spiritual journey is one of grieving our losses and only when all the losses are properly buried, do we see that God was there all along. He never deserted us. We were never alone spiritually. But we only see this truth when we are alone in our humanity, without the things we once treasured. They blinded us.
In our losses, we peel back the walls that separate us from God. Then we realize that to be alone, is to be in communion with God. Peace is our reward. We have nothing more to hide, nothing more to prove and nothing more to lose. Jesus lived and died in this way. To be at peace when alone is extreme Christianity. I believe it is what Jesus meant when he said, “People can’t observe the coming of the kingdom of God. They can’t say, ‘Here it is!’ or ‘There it is!’ You see, the kingdom of God is within you.” (Luke 17:21)
When this is true for you, you will be happy alone. Supernaturally. †