These four words are transformative and require the highest degree of personal surrender. The impact is equally dramatic, once understood and applied – if you can rise to his extraordinary level of leadership capacity.

Driver. Passenger.
Near. Far.

These four words get leaders better results…now! How? By knowing when to use them, leaders get other people to “drive” better results. How? By shifting how power and authority are shared. Shifting who’s in control instantly impacts others, resulting in real changes that get better results – when done wisely.

As a leader, you want to impact others to change – ideally of their own free will.  A driver is the person doing the task. A passenger is the person influencing or affected by what the driver does. If the driver crashes so does the passenger! This is what creates power struggles. Becoming aware of this helps anyone caught in a power struggle.

Near means the passenger is closely watching the driver, perhaps even pressuring the driver to change by getting angry or critical.

Far means the passenger is hardly involved, showing no inclination to control what the driver does.

Thus, drivers and passengers are the roles people play. Near and far are how drivers and passengers pressure each other to change.

Once understood, this leadership techniques is extremely powerful when in the hands of a surrendered leader. Such a leader has the capacity to switch roles and move near or far as needed to impact others so they change, freely and willingly. This technique requires a leader to be fully neutral about outcomes, surrendered and indifferent, in order to walk this talk.

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For personal and marriage applications, read this e-booklet: Near and Far Stay Married, by John Kuypers